Anxieties of a Parent with a Child with Autism

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First published on Technorati as Anxieties of a Parent with a Child with Autism. Parents and children surround a magician at the Utah Autumn Carnival for Autism.Every parent of a child with Autism has concerns about their child's future. And, inevitably, we compare our children with those neuro-typical children with whom he plays in the park or attends church. Any social situation, we can see how our children are behaving and reacting in comparison with other children.When we first notice, we tear up, or at least I did. I would get choked up because I knew my child was different, and I knew the teasing, bullying, and ridicule he was going to endure while attending school. I could see the future, and it was not what I had hoped it would be. That was before I noticed the extraordinary things my son can accomplish.At this point, I would get excited, seeing a future for my son as a scientist or engineer as his natural ability to puzzle out and complete tasks well more advanced than is typical for his age. I would feel comfortable with the future that I could see, secure that there would be a place for my son in this world.And then reality hits. The work that is involved in getting my son to the point where his natural intelligence can shine through the limitations of s Autism is very real. It takes a lot of time to focus on his eye contact, working on attending when his name is called, or even keep him focused on a task that needs to be completed. It is a frustrating point in my son's development as he is very plight and quickly gets bored. And I'm not just saying that as a biased father, because his teachers have all mentioned the same thing.I know in the last hat I have mentioned solutions or projects that need to be accomplished in order to better the plight of parents of children on the spectrum. But this time I don't have any answers or secrets. There isn't anything special that can be done, no secret herb or magical gesture that will fix this situation. It's the reality of children with Autism, and parents who try to help them through their condition. It takes commitment and dedication. Personally, I work through it day by day, looking for those little accomplishments that come, and working through the regression and setbacks that my son may have.But it is all worth it when you see your child make a friend who looks past his lack of speech or social graces and wants him to come over and play. It's worth it when, during a church presentation of his class, he makes that presentation without a meltdown. And it will be worth it when I see him become a positive contributor to society when he gets older. Autism is not a condemnation or a curse, it's just another way of thinking. And as such there is nothing that can really stop a child on the Spectrum from accomplishing what he or she wants, as long as they have the support from everyone around them.